Mutiara Keharmonisan Keluarga

Kitab Uqudulujain adalah buah pena dari Syaikh Nawawi al-Bantani, seorang ulama besar asal Banten yang bermukim di Makkah dan mengajar di Masjidil Haram, Syaikh Nawawi membagi kitab Uqudul'ujain menjadi empat pasal, yaitu :

- Fasal pertama membahas hak-hak istri atas suami.
- Fasal kedua membahas hak-hak suami atas istri.
- Fasal ketiga membahas keutamaan sholat wanita dirumah.
- Fasal keempat membahas keharaman memperhatikan/memandang yang bukan muhrimnya


Ketahuilah bahwa, setiap suami hendaknya pandai-pandai memberi pengajaran atau wasiat-wasiat kebajikan kepada isterinya. Rasulullah S.A.W mengingatkan :
“ROHIMALLAHU ROJULAN QOOLA YAA AHLAAHU SHOLAA TAKUM SHIYAA MAKUM DZAKAA TAKUM MISKIINAKUM YATIIMAKUM JIIROONAKUM LA’ALLAKUM MA’AHUM FIL JANNATI. ” Artinya: “Mudahmudahan Allah merahmati seorang suami yang mengingatkan isterinya, ‘HAI ISTRIKU, JAGALAH SHALATMU, PUASAMU, ZAKATMU. KASIHANILAH ORANG-ORANG MISKIN DI ANTARAMU, PARA TETANGGAMU. MUDAHMUDAHAN ALLAH MENGUMPULKAN KAMU BERSAMA MEREKA DI SURGA’. ”
Hendaknya seorang suami selalu memperhatikan nafkahnya sesuai dengan kesanggupannya. Hendaknya suami selalu bersabar jika menerima cercaan isterinya, atau perlakuan-perlakuan tidak baik lainnya. Hendaknya suami mengasihani isterinya, yaitu dengan bentuk memberi pendidikan secara baik, kendati ia seorang terpelajar. Sebab kaum wanita bagaimanapun diciptakan dalam keadaan serba kurang akal dan tipis beragama (kecuali hanya sedikit saja yang mempunyai akal panjang dan beragama kuat). Tersebut dalam hadits: “LAU LAA ANNALLAHA SATAROL MAR ATA BIL HAYAA ILAKAA NATS LAA TUSAA WII KAFFAN MIN TUROOBIN. ” Artinya: “Kalaulah bukan karena Allah membuatkan penutup rasa malu bagi kaum wanita, niscaya harganya tidka dapat menyamai segenggam debu. (alhadits). Book Uqudulujain are pens Nawawi al-Banteni, a great scholar from Banten who live in Makkah and teaching in the Haram, Nawawi Uqudul'ujain divide the book into four chapters, namely:

- The first chapter discusses the rights of the husband over the wife.
- The second chapter discusses the rights of the husband over the wife.
- The third chapter discusses the virtue of a woman praying at home.
- The fourth chapter discusses the prohibition notice / view of the opposite sex


Know that, every husband should be very clever to give lectures or wills virtue to his wife. S.A.W Prophet warned:
"ROHIMALLAHU ROJULAN QOOLA YAA AHLAAHU SHOLAA Takum SHIYAA MAKUM DZAKAA Takum MISKIINAKUM YATIIMAKUM JIIROONAKUM LA'ALLAKUM MA'AHUM FIL Jannati. "It means:" Hopefully Allah bless a husband who reminds his wife, 'HAI MY WIFE, WATCH your prayers, your fasting, ZAKATMU. PEOPLE have mercy on poor among you, PARA neighbor. Hopefully COLLECT YOUR GOD WITH THEM IN HEAVEN '. "
A husband should always pay attention to their living according to his ability. Husband should always be patient when his wife received a slur, or inappropriate treatments other better. Husband should pity his wife, by giving shape education well, although he is a learned man. For women however, are created in an all-round lack of reason and religious thin (except for a few who have a strong religious sense and long). Mentioned in the hadith: "LAA ANNALLAHA SATAROL LAU MAR ATA BIL HAYAA ILAKAA Nats TUSAA WII KAFFAN LAA MIN TUROOBIN. "It means:" If it were not for God made the cover of shame for women, undoubtedly tidka price can equal a handful of dust. (Alhadits).