Stand Up for Yourself

'If you are not for yourself then who can be?' Do you sometimes feel that people walk all over you, take advantage and treat you as if you don't have a point of view? You may end up seething inside and feeling hard done by but having to pretend everything is ok really.

Or you may fear that if you say something that someone else doesn't like you'll end up feeling guilty.

But, of course standing up for yourself is a form of honesty. And if people are treating you badly then telling them so in no uncertain terms can help them examine their own behavior and hopefully become more thoughtful when dealing with others. Trying to keep the peace and preserve other people's egos isn't always the best way of encouraging them to become more decent human beings.

Standing up for yourself means putting your ideas forward, being relaxed and confident 'stating your case' and being prepared to 'fight your corner' if necessary.

But it takes confidence to stand up for yourself. Maybe you never learned to or were always put down and told your ideas didn't count for much; made to feel that you don't have a point of view.

Perhaps you learnt that 'nice' people don't argue or it's always selfish to want things for yourself.

Maybe you hate confrontation and panic if any one feels unhappy. You want to keep the peace. But the problem with feeling you need to be a 'people pleaser' is that it's not actually possible to please everybody all the time and you end up hardly ever pleasing yourself.

The fact is that sometimes in life whether you upset someone or not has to take a back seat to what you're actually trying to do. Imagine if a pilot didn't tell the co-pilot that they were flying dangerously during a flight through fear of upsetting them! This is an extreme example but makes the point that other people's egos need to take a back seat sometimes when we are focused on getting things right on projects and so forth.

If people push you around being nice to them won't get them to like or respect you. 'You can't turn a lion into a vegetarian by throwing veggie-burgers at it!'

But people should know what I'm feeling!

Or maybe you have been falling into the 'mind reading' trap. Maybe you haven't been standing up for your self because you feel that people surely don't need to be told to treat you with respect-surely they must know how you feel. Why? The truth is if you don't say anything when something is wrong 99% of people will just assume that's alright with you. People need to be told; don't expect them to read your mind.

Standing up for your self can make you a nicer person

You can stand up for your self when people try to take advantage and be a nice and decent person. In some ways you are a nicer person when you stand up for yourself because you are being more honest with people; more direct.

Hypnosis as an unconscious motivator

Hypnosis is the perfect way to feel stronger, more relaxed and confident in those times when you need to stand up for yourself. Remember standing up for yourself doesn't mean becoming a tyrant or aggressive. When you truly stand up for yourself you are clear calm and respectful but above all firm. You decide just what your position is on something and you stick to it.

When you feel more naturally able to stand up for yourself then your going to find that you have a greater sense of control over your own life. You'll be less at the shim of how others just happen to decide to treat you.

This session will encourage standing up for yourself to feel increasingly natural rather than a big deal.

Download Stand Up for Yourself now to start feeling liberated and stop being pushed around.